Nothing Magical about January 1


Nothing Magical about January 1

Priscilla Hunt, Certified Relationship Coach for Couples

One month into the New Year and it’s time to take stock of where you are in accomplishing your resolutions. Resolutions are simply goals – they can be set at any time. There’s nothing magical about January 1. How about setting a goal or two for your relationship today?

The idea of setting goals for couples isn’t a mystery. We simply take stock of where we are and determine where we want to be. We don’t have to vow to change the world or give our relationship a total overhaul. We simply have to move forward.

What needs to change for you to move forward in your relationship? To make it better? Don’t try to change everything at once. Choose one thing. Baby steps are enough. Add little things as you go.

Take off your rose-colored glasses and put aside the myth of happily-ever-after. It takes work. Think growth. Think movement. Before you know it, you’ll be living a life beyond happily-ever-after!

What will it take to get you from where you are to where you want to be? One thing for sure, you won’t get there by accident. We need to be pro-active about our relationship instead of re-active. We need to own our part in making it good.

Make a date with your partner to sit down and evaluate where you each see your relationship – the strengths as well as the areas that need improvement. Start with the positive. What are you getting right? Celebrate it! Don’t get discouraged about the areas that aren’t so positive. ALL couples have those areas!

Make a date with your partner to share each other’s viewpoints about these questions.

  • What kind of relationship do you want?
  • Where is your relationship now?
  • In what areas does your relationship need to grow?
  • What’s your plan for getting to where you want to be?

If you want to have a happier, closer relationship in 2022, make a plan. Write it down. Seek the support of a Relationship Coach to get you in touch with what you really want and help you set specific goals to achieve it.

Take baby steps, and before you know it – you’ve co-created the relationship you truly want!