marriage help

Supporting Your Spouse Through Addiction and Recovery

By Dr. Sarah Toler, CNM, DNP www.addictions.com Coming soon: Online Relationship Academy https://close-companions.teachable.com Being married to a person who is addicted to alcohol or drugs is hard. When you entered into a marriage, you did so with the expectation of always putting each other first. When a spouse becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, the […]

Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale

Based on research by psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe in 1967, this index scale examines the link between stress and illness. The body is a finely tuned instrument that does not like surprises. Any sudden change in stimuli which affects the body, or the reordering of important routines that the body becomes used to, […]

Listen With Your Heart – 10 Tips For Couple Communication

Dr. Linda Miles drlindamiles.com Here are some ways to tell your partner the truth with love: When you discuss issues with your partner, be genuine and be present. Don’t let your mind wander. Maintain eye contact. If you are upset, empathize with how she or he feels. Use “soft eyes” to convey the idea that […]

Rekindle Your Relationship with Mindfulness

Rekindle Your Relationship with Mindfulness Dr. Linda Miles www.drlindamiles.com Coming soon: Online Relationship Academy Do you recall the beginning of your relationship, when you first fell in love? What is it that made those butterflies in your stomach fade away? What happened along the way that made you lose those moments of staring into each […]

Tips for Reducing Stress

www.drlindamiles.com Coming soon: Online Relationship Academy Persistent anxiety takes its toll on your emotions, and it affects your body as well. In fact, anxiety sets off a trail of physical responses such as chest pain, heart palpitations, shaking, chills, hot flashes, nausea, diarrhea, stomach pain, insomnia, headaches, back pain, shortness of breath, and fatigue. The […]

A Talking Chicken!

One day the first grade teacher was reading the story of Chicken Little to her class. She came to the part where Chicken Little warns the farmer. She read, “. . .and Chicken Little went up to the farmer and said ‘The sky is falling!’” The teacher then asked the class, “And what do you […]

Rescuing Your Relationship from Stress

Jon Beaty/November 2017 This article was originally published by The Gottman Institute and republished with permission   Emotional distance, a loss of intimacy, and the death of romance. That describes our marriage less than six months after my wife and I exchanged vows. We’d married with dreams of living happily ever after. Conflict on our […]

I Understand Everything

Leo Tolstoy said “All, everything I understand, I understand only because of love.” The goal of listening is to understand what the other person is expressing. Seems like a simple goal, but why is it so difficult? If we listen with love, truly opening ourselves to the message our partner wants us to understand, both […]

Because I Have a Brain. . .

Robert Browning said “Where my heart lies, let my brain lie also.” Because I have a brain, because I love you. . . I’ll think before I speak I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt I’ll think of new ways to express it I’ll remember the little things that make you feel loved I’ll […]

How to Deal With Your Partner’s Snoring?

John Breese www.happysleepyhead.com So, you’ve met someone special, and you quickly fell into each other. Everything was going perfectly until the first night in the same bed, when you discovered that your loved one is as loud as a chainsaw. Snoring is a common problem, indeed. But that surely doesn’t mean you need to end […]