by Dr. Jackie Black
Part 4 of a 4-part series on boundaries in relationships
Let me say first, setting boundaries is not disrespectful, bad or wrong. In fact, emotionally healthy people set personal boundaries.
Educate people in your life about your boundaries. Calmly and respectfully inform them about how they can and cannot behave around you. Let people know what you want and don’t want, what you like and don’t like.
Let people know what your limits are. This actually gives people in your life the security of knowing your relationship guidelines and eliminates their fears about how they should behave with you.
Building walls to protect yourself actually blocks closeness and prevents loving and unloving interactions.
Building walls or inadequate boundaries blocks all interactions and results in no protection.
And there’s more.
Setting and maintaining your own boundaries and honoring the boundaries of others are skills that can be learned.
It takes mindfulness, intention and practice. Be patient with yourself as you learn and practice these important and valuable life skills. It is worth it–And so are you!
Remember, only YOU can make it happen!