by Carl and Nancy Terry
Conflict in a close intimate relationship is inevitable. This statement is probably even more true today when we are dealing with COVID 19, and racial and social justice issues. We are living in a difficult time of stress and change; we do not know what the future will bring. One thing that can get us through this difficult time is our couple relationship, but it can also be a time of disagreements, quarrels, irritations, and conflict with the one we love the most.
Believe it or not, these conflicts have the potential for bringing us closer, if we work through them with good communication and conflict resolution skills. Given the opportunity we can either work through the anger and conflict and come up with a mutually acceptable solution or we can ignore it or give in and end up feeling more distant from one another.
There are Four C’s for resolving Conflict:
We want to share with you a collaboration process that has been helpful to us. Are we perfect at it? No way, but it is a model that we have found helpful.
Remember, conflicts are an opportunity to learn more about each other and to deepen your understanding of each other. You may find that you are feeling closer to each other.
For additional information see, Love and Anger in Marriage by David Mace.